Whenever any of us find ourselves tormented by suicidal thoughts and feelings: we need to remember that as terrifying
as these thoughts and feelings are – they are temporary.
· Suicidal thoughts and feelings are terrifying –
it can feel like you are being haunted by demons - but they are temporary.
Moreover, according to the world’s professional mental health authorities our suicidal thoughts and feelings
· Because our suicidal thoughts and feelings are treatable – our condition is treatable.
Being treatable doesn’t mean that we are
our condition - because we are not – however, when the condition is suicide; it is one condition
we cannot afford to become.
Our greatest danger NOW is that we allow our suicidal
thoughts and feelings to overwhelm and replace all
of our other thoughts and feelings.
When this happens a highly dangerous obsession emerges pushing us ever
closer to oblivion
· In this phase, help is vital –
do not attempt to survive a suicidal obssession face alone.
DANGER WARNING DANGER WARNING DANGER
Our ever-intensifying level
of suicidal probability also rises dramatically when we allow our embarrassment to prevent us from asking others for
our pride allows us to stop ourselves from telling others about what we are going through.
our shame allows us not to share with family and friends. Nor speak with anyone face-to-face
or even by telephone.
we allow ourselves to do all of this, we not only cut ourselves off from others; we also
cut ourselves off from any possibility of help from others.
When we allow this – we deny ourselves any possibility of recovery. We deny
ourselves ………the chance of life.
we need to communicate with someone as a matter of some urgency. We urgently need to find someone that we can trust
and talk with.
Your life is
at stake - tell them straight - but tell them truthfully. It is too late in the day for anything other than straight
talking. Tell a family member, a close friend, a counsellor, a doctor, a priest etc. The choice is yours. But please
If you cannot do this. If you are unable
to speak with others face-to-face, or even on the telephone. Don't despair and don't beat yourself up.
You are in the shadow of death and going
through what you are going through is scarey. It's perfectly normal for us feel too confused, too nervous, too anxious,
too afraid, too vulnerable and too threatened to tell someone else what we are going through.
It really is asking the world to expect
us to open our wounds and reveal our true thoughts, our true hearts our true feelings, our true selves and weaknesses etc.
The prospect of simply telling others can
seem like being a humiliation too painful to survive. Given this humiliating choice some of us deliberately choose to remain
silent and end up dead rather than be judged badly by others.
As painful as it is to fear the disapproval of others. We can survive their
disapproval. We cannot survive our deaths.