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• The fact that you're actually physically here, reading this message right now means that you could be trapped inside a terrifying emotional  nightmare - seemingly without end.

• If this is so, you will be painfully aware that you need to end your suffering at any cost. Even if this cost involves dying. The suffering must stop.

• You are right of course. You do need to end your suffering - you do need to heal the pain.  But suicide is not the way to end your suffering. Suicide will not heal your pain.  Suicide simply passes this pain onto someone else to deal with.

• However, at this moment - being trapped in this emotional nightmare you will be feeling torn apart by the need to live, and the desire to die. As strange as it may seem, this is a positive sign.

• The pain you are experiencing is very real. It hurts. It is not something which is simply 'in your head'. Your pain has now got to a point where it is overwhelming your capacity to cope - and it is becoming insufferable. It is simply too much to bear - and it feels like it will never go away.

• As this pain increases - the need to die also grows stronger. This is because emotional pain saps your will to live as you grow ever weaker. In the situation you are going through, this really is understandable.

• Given the pain you're in, your need to end it all is both perfectly natural and healthy -  No one wants to suffer. No one.

• Suffering is unhealthy, so your choice not to suffer is a perfectly healthy choice.

• If you wanted to continue living in pain you would have to be mad. But you're not. The fact that you would sooner die than continue suffering proves that you are not mad.  It is vital that you appreciate this. This is a truth.

• You are not crazy, wicked, weak, or going mad. You are suffering. You need this pain to stop. This pain is not stopping which is why you are experiencing this emotional nightmare.

• Please bear one thing in mind, and that is that what you are experiencing is a condition. BUT YOU ARE NOT A CONDITION.  You are you. You  are hurting, but you are still you. Please do not forget that.

• Another thing to remember is that conditions do improve. Conditions come and go. Perhaps they may never be the same as before - but conditions do improve.

• At this moment, you are probably feeling alone and trapped inside a truly frightening place.  Where (given the feelings which you are experiencing) it is perfectly normal to feel that the only way to end your emotional pain is to end your physical life. Millions of us know this place.

• Throughout the history of our species countless millions of others have actually been through this dreadful thing and survived. SO CAN WE. With this in mind, it is important that we understand that there are millions of others who share our pain and what we are going through.

• The fact that there are so many millions of others who have, and do survive a suicidal crisis is itself quite inspirational and should fill us with hope. It is proof that options to suicide really do exist.

• I know that I may be repeating myself and that it is hard to believe, but this pain will pass. No matter how bad it is and how much worse it will become. One thing is sure. Eventually - it will diminish.

• The suicidal thoughts and feelings which you're experiencing is a natural response to the pain you're going through. These too will diminish in the fulness of time. But at this moment, you will still be experiencing suicidal thoughts and feelings. Do not be afraid.

• Remember one important truth, there is a world of difference between having suicidal thoughts and acting upon them. Whilst it is ok to have such thoughts, it's not ok to act upon them.

• Suicide is not a coping strategy. Suicide is a killer. Suicide does not heal. Suicide guarantees you will never heal. Suicide does not end pain, it passes it on to someone else. Suicide is not a sanctuary. Suicide is not an option.

• You desperately need to feel better - to do this you need to be able to feel. If you are dead, your feelings will also be dead - you will not be able to feel better. You will be dead and your loved one's will be devastated. Suicide will not help you feel better.

• Human contact, emotional support and a good coping strategy will help you to feel better. Human contact will help you to feel better. Emotional support will save you and those around you, and a good coping strategy will help you recover.

• It is vital that you accept one simple truth: Suicide is not the solution you seek. But the real solution is out there. It is only a question of time till you find it, but find it you will. BUT ONLY IF YOU STAY ALIVE

• In this situation, it is normal to experience being torn between life and death  - and let's be honest -  it's both scary and confusing.  Again, given the situation, it is perfectly natural and is nothing for us to panic about.

• We are not alone.

• We know we are going through Hell because pain is overwhelming our ability to cope with that pain.

• We urgently need this painful situation to come to an end. This is why we are contemplating suicide.

• We are not crazy, weird or weak. 

• We desperately need "not to be" in the pain we're in . And not as previously thought desperately need "to die". There is a whole world of difference.

• Suicidal feelings really do pass.

• Now, we need to make sure that we take control of this situation, and not allow these situations to take control of us.

• Given that it is your life which is at stake here - and the sanity of your loved ones. The next step is to transform the struggle from "not to be" (in an intolerable situation) into "to be" (in a happier one).

• This process requires certain steps and hard work by each one of us. But this struggle is all-important and will be worth it - after all death is no real alternative. But we must not forget,  we are not alone. Millions of others have survived this so why shouldn't we?

• The experts are uniform in their insistence that the first major obstacle we are required to acknowledge is our pain - and also acknowledge what caused it. We also need to accept that whatever caused our pain also hurt our bodies,  minds and emotions

• The important question now is deciding who you can communicate with as a first contact. Generally, a loved one or a close friend is the obvious choice, but possibly,not always the easiest choice.

• If possible we should get rid of everything which we could use to kill ourselves with.

• We are stongly advised to get rid of all the bad things in our lives which have caused us so much pain.

• Avoid abusive bullying people who cause pain, distress and misery. If you are trapped in an abusive relationship, get help and get the Hell out of it, while you can.

• Avoid everywhere where we feel threatened, sad, distressed or just uncomfortable.

• We should avoid any and all situations which cause us stress, unhappiness or pain.

• We should think of the positive things which brought us happiness in the past. Imagine doing them again.

• We should try to structure our days around doing the things which we used to enjoy doing.

• We should concentrate on living one day at a time. When we relax more we can make it two days. Then three etc until we can plan next years vacation without worry.

• Try to rediscover the activities which we used to find highly pleasurable. 

• Try to consider the suffering that your death would cause. 

• Never forget suicide crises do pass.