Sometimes 'relationships' can defeat loneliness - sometimes
Traditionally, relationships have proved to be a vital and (quite frankly)
necessary part of our 'human' condition. So much so, that the idea of a perfect one is very highly desirable and we all
Unfortunately, for many of us, it can be both painful and confusing to have
to admit to ourselves that we need a relationship. Because this means that we need others to be happy.
Like a great many things in life, our relationships can be a major
source of confusion and disappointment. This can be because we don't
have enough of them. We don't have the right type or quality. The relationships we do have are unhealthy. Don't satisfy us. Are a source of
despair, irritation, pain or even danger - as in abusive relationships.
If all this wasn't bad enough,we experience
feelings of sadness, rejection and wretched loneliness when we realise that the relationship we yearn for, is
simply not going to happen.
As soul destroying, miserable and damaging that our loneliness
can be, it can be 'balanced out' by another one of our painful emotions - pain. The pain caused by our fear of rejection
that we experience whenever we try to form a new relationship with someone special.
Meanwhile, those of us in relationships are not spared from pain either.
Relationships are prone to breakdown. Some end painfully some tragically. Some in abuse, contempt and treachery
Most failures are probably due to us not managing to 'measure up' to our
varying needs, hopes, desires and appetites. Some appear to simply lack the basic interest necessary to keep the
relationship from collapsing.
Rather than being lonely an unknown number of us choose to remain in harmful relationships
and accept our pain meekly. Others escape and face a different sort of relationship-challenge; finding new relationships
that are not based in suffering.
None of us is perfect.
This being so, none of our relationships can possibly be perfect either.It
goes without saying that even the most healthy well-balanced, caring and supportive relationship will experience periods of
tension. Periods which are dark distinctly uncomfortable and difficult.
Whilst some relationships are undoubtedly healthier and better to be in than
others, there is no such thing as a perfect pain-free relationship
Creating Satisfying Relationships
Life really isn't fair. This lack of fairness being so, it is becoming obvious
that some of us are enjoying a far easier time forming and maintaining relationships than the rest of us.
In particular those blessed with a physical appearance attractive to
the opposite sex. Great personal wealth and powerful social status would explain why some of us have numerous relationships.
Let's be honest there is no shortage of people who want to be with others who are attractive, well off and or famous. But
there are also many, many people who aren't particularly attractive, rich or famous who still enjoy numerous satisfying relationships.
It seems that what sets these regular satisfied types apart from other less-satisfied
people are their mastery of social skills.